To Couples

To Couples (Together in Love) is a practical guide for couples building a Christian marriage. It covers preparation, the expectations each partner brings, communication, conflict and the ordinary daily work that keeps two people close over years rather than months.

What’s inside To Couples

The book takes the position that a marriage is built from habits rather than feelings, and that the habits are formed early. It deals with what each partner assumes without saying — about money, roles, family, time, and what a marriage is for — and how those unspoken assumptions surface as arguments about something else entirely.

The later material addresses the long middle of a marriage: what changes when children arrive, how couples drift without either party deciding to, and what actually reverses it.

• Expectations each partner brings without naming them
• Communication and handling disagreement
• Money, roles and family pressure
• What changes when children arrive
• Staying close over the long term

Who this book is for

This suits engaged couples and couples in their early years, and it is regularly used in pre-marital counselling. Couples further into a marriage who can feel a drift will find the later chapters more useful than the early ones.

It is also one of the more affordable marriage titles in the catalogue, which makes it a practical gift for a couple in the church who would not buy a book like this for themselves.

About this edition

To Couples is published under the Together in Love title and distributed in South Africa through HHES. It sits alongside the longer Nancy Van Pelt marriage titles in this catalogue as the shorter, more affordable option.

This title sits in our Marriage & Family range alongside To Have & To Hold and Highly Effective Marriage.

Questions about this book

Is this a pre-marital counselling book?

It is regularly used that way. The chapters on expectations and money do the most work before a wedding.

Do both partners need to read it?

It works best when both do, though one partner reading it alone still gets value from the communication material.

How does it differ from the Nancy Van Pelt marriage titles?

The Van Pelt books are longer and built around structured exercises. This is a shorter, more direct read at a lower price, which makes it easier to give away.

Is it explicitly Christian?

Yes. It is written from a Christian understanding of marriage throughout.

Can I buy several copies to give away?

Yes. It is the marriage title most often bought in small quantities by churches and family life teams for exactly that reason. Contact HHES for pricing on multiples.